Monthly Archives: February 2012

On Lotteries

Here’s a snippet that has stuck with me: a little riff between Jehiel and Debra on the subject of lotteries.
    Jehiel said that he has spoken with a number of people who have won the lottery.  (I imagine one of them was probably the court officer in the Hudson County courthouse where Sylvia clerked, who won $20 million.)  “People who win the lottery rarely ask, ‘Why me?'” said Jehiel.
    And Debra said that when she hears of people in this country playing the lottery, she tells them: “Don’t you realize that if you’re living here, you’ve already won the lottery?”

By: Nikki Pusin

Wisdom from Rabbi Jehiel (that I will always remember)

Among one of Rabbi Orenstein’s prodigious gifts is the ability to deliver words of Torah in such a way that you hear them and they stick.  I remember a High Holiday sermon where he taught that every one of us has a special mitzvah– a special skill or talent that God has given us–and it is our job to own that mitzvah and do it.  As an example, he mentioned that Rich and I have taken on the mitzvah of teaching Torah to children and their families.  Not only did he affirm to me the value of our work with young children, but he helped me to recognize that every individual– no matter how simple or how elevated– has an obligation to give what they can–in their own way– to make the world better.  And I continue to hear his “voice” and wisdom every time I try to grow by taking on a new mitzvah.

By: Treasure Cohen

A lesson from a wallet

Most of my learning from Jehiel has been informal, around the dinner table rather than in the classroom.  Only once did I have an actual course with Jehiel, as far as I recall.  I believe it must have been while I was in Central Hebrew High School, which would have been in the late 1960’s, and it was a course in Mishnah.  I remember coming into the classroom for the first class with some of the other students.  Jehiel was a little late coming in.  As the students were settling in around the table, one of them picked up a wallet from the floor.  The wallet had a $50 bill in it, as well as a black-and-white photo of a baby, but no other identification.  I remember spending some time scrutinizing the photo for any resemblance to anyone I knew, but I could not make a positive ID.  Then Jehiel came in.  We spent the next hour discussing what rights and responsibilities we might have with respect to the wallet, what the Rabbis said about hashavat aveda (return of lost property) and how we might go about making an ethical decision about what to do with it. 

I have never forgotten that lesson.  A few years ago, my daughter Molly found a wad of cash in a lake on Cape Cod where she was swimming.  I told her that return of lost property was an important law in the Torah, and I was very proud when she then went around to everyone on the beach to ask if they had lost some cash.  When no one claimed it, she gave a substantial portion of it to tzedaka.  I consider that that tzedaka was to Jehiel’s credit.

By: Nikki Pusin

The wisdom of a child

A few years ago, the Beth El bulletin published a photograph of Jehiel lighting Hanukkah candles with a class from the Beth El Preschool.  A child with whom I am acquainted was in the class, so I asked the child to identify various people in the photo.  The child correctly identified classmates and teachers.  Then I pointed to Jehiel.  “And who’s this?” I asked.  Without hesitation, the child replied, “That’s God.”
    Yes, it’s cute, but when you think about it, it was an easy mistake to make.  Children are very quick to pick up on moral authority, and Jehiel has it.  That’s why I have an engraved sign on my desk that says WWJD:  What would Jehiel do?  He’s never needed to hold mountains over people’s heads or fling fire and brimstone.  His style is more along the lines of Isaiah: Come, let us reason together.  As a teacher and a preacher he has always proceeded out of compassion and urged others to do the same–to live up to the best in themselves.

Nikki Pusin

By: Nikki Pusin

Outstanding Midot [Character Traits]

Dear Jehiel,

It’s always enjoyable to see you on visits and family s’machot. You always have interesting stories and experiences to relate, and it’s a pleasure to talk to you.

I (Shlomo) remember particularly a Shabbat I spent with you and Sylvia and the family in the 1960’s in Jerusalem, where I was able to appreciate your outstanding Midot, as expressed in your interpersonal relationships.

Mazal Tov on your birthday.

Wishing you all the best.

B’vracha,

Shlomo and Zipora Polachek and family

By: Shlomo and Zipora Polachek

A Friend

Dear Rabbi,
When Ivan and I moved to South Orange, our son Eric needed a “friend” at shul and you became his. You told him it was your shul, and if he needed anything he should come to you. What a gift that was for him, because he always looked forward to Shabbos and spending time in your shul. Thank you for that and for all the other times, during simchas and sadness, when you were there for us and our family.
Wishing you a very happy birthday.

Frema & Ivan Sobel and family

Lucky to Know Rabbi O.

Of course there was the bris, the bar mitzvahs and the weddings all officiated by Rabbi but while these were memorable lifecycle events nothing compares to our Rabbi walking down the hall at the hospital in St. Louis. Our son, Stephen, was involved in a lifethreatening accident and while Bob and I were at Stephen’s side, who could have imagined that Rabbi came to be with us and support us through that harrowing time. We have told this story hundreds of times and still get chills knowing that Rabbi flew to help Bob and me. Stephen, thank G-d, had the best medical care but WE have the best RABBI. Mazel tov on your birthday. We look forward to celebrating with you and Sylvia and the entire family.

Love, Mattye & Bob 

By: Mattye & Bob Gandel

Sustaining The Synagogue Where We Prayed Together

Dear Rabbi Orenstein,
In commemoration of your wonderful birthday, I have made a Double Chai Donation to Congregation Beth El.

Roz Diamond

By: Roz Diamond

Rabbi Orenstein on Heschel

The last time Rabbi Orenstein taught at Beth El was a class my wife asked him to teach on his remembrances of Abraham Joshua Heschel, some of which is excerpted in his bio on this website.  I can still hear him regale us still with his strong voice, filled with joy and levity, discussing the man who was so central in creating the Rabbi Orenstein we all love.  His face beamed with pride in knowing this great man — the face so perfectly captured in his picture and in his bio.  Paraphrasing what Rabbi Orenstein said of Heschel, I am privileged to know this great man.  All who learned from him will never forget his teaching.

Bill Gold,
President, Beth El
 
By: Bill Gold

Dear Jehiel

Dear Jehiel,
You were and you are our spiritual guide. 
You have been with us in our saddest times and in our most joyous times.
You and Sylvia inspire us to lead more Jewish lives.
You are our role models.
We are blessed by your presence in our lives.
We thank you.
We love you,
Ruth and Aaron Bernstein

By: Ruth & Aaron Bernstein